Leave Yesterday’s Mistakes Behind

yesterdays mistakes


Our past is a huge part of our future…our stories shape us and we become a women of our individual journeys. I don’t believe we can or should leave our stories behind us and think that we can just forget where we’ve been or what we’ve done.

But let’s not let our mistakes or sins keep us from the beauty that God has before us.

The ashes are a necessary part of the beauty, but don’t let the ashes direct us, let hope and trust in the Father direct us.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight.

Finding Happiness

What will make you happy? What do you really want?

More of __________________________.

Less of ___________________________.

And how much more or less will be the indicator of your supposed happiness?

If that which is outside us could fulfill and bring us joy, it would be evident in those who have so much and are so happy. No, we see a world filled with an excess of things and yet empty of joy.

The only true source of joy is found within. It’s found in the quiet place of our heart that doesn’t have to run from the pain or noise of this life.

Peace is what’s lacking.

We will scratch and claw our way through life, blaming others and ranting about injustice until our hearts find this place of peace.

I don’t believe it can be found until we rest in the love of the One who created us.

When we find Him in our loneliness and experience that He is enough, we will have touched the eternal.

It’s not a process, it’s not a physical place, it’s not a person and it’s not a church or group.

It’s Him.

When we believe that we are loved and have been put on this earth for a reason, even without fully understanding that reason, we begin a journey that is evidenced by peace and then joy.

The question is not “what” will make us happy, but “who” will make us happy?

It’s the One who left the stones on the ground and embraced the rambunctious children.
It’s the One who never promised an easy road but promised to walk the stormy journey with us.
It’s the One who walked away from the righteous to embrace the mess of humanity.

It’s the One who loves you. Yes you, mess and all.

Is Your Past Holding You Hostage?

Your mind reels with memories that imprison you. You rehearse the events like Groundhog Day, each time inserting a new response in your mind of things you wish you’d said. If only you’d told them this or reacted like that. But at the end of your minds’ spiral, life is not changed, the facts cannot be undone.

Have you ever been tormented by your own thoughts?

I’ve spent far too long in this life rehearsing pain from my past. Betrayal, regret, even abuse, and I can’t think hard enough to process them through to a place of peace; they have to be taken hold of and released.

You know you should forgive, you want to. You want your life back. You plead with your own heart to just move on, but you can’t seem to find the freedom you desperately crave. The past is holding you hostage as you realize that you still hold out hope that somehow the memories could be different, but as long as we stay in the place of regret we cannot move forward.

Forgiveness and healing can only happen when we give up hope that the past could be different.

There is a settling in our heart that happens when we embrace the truth that the past is done, it cannot be changed. However, we can change our tomorrows, and as I let the remorse slip from my hands I start to see with the eyes of hope.

Hope is a waking dream. —ARISTOTLE

As if we wake from a long slumber, hope brings fresh eyes and dreams of freedom. Thankfully, these dreams can come true if our hope is in the Father of all life because He has promised to heal our brokenness when we bring it to Him.

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.  Psalms 34:18

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalms 147:3

I don’t pretend to think that this is an easy or fast process, but it’s the only process that makes us whole.  This world offers many ways to deflect the pain, but I believe that God wants to bring much more than a momentary distraction. He wants a relationship with us that brings healing and security as we discover His immense love for us.

I wish I had some fancy steps that you could take, an ABC of healing that I could throw out to you, but I don’t. I have the scars that remind me that this life is a journey not cut and tied in pretty little bows but instead a path littered with thorns and crosses, prodigals and promises. I can’t imagine trying to walk it alone, I hope you can’t either.

“I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.” Hebrews 13:5 NLT

God created you. He knows all, He sees all, and yet He is crazy about you. He can be found in every moment if we open our eyes and look up.

When the Message Gets Muddy with My Wounds

I hate it when His message gets muddied in my wounds.

Ever been there?

The raw pain in your heart comes pouring out like a muddy swamp and shows how very little you really do trust His love.

And that’s ok. God can take it.

God isn’t disappointed or mad, He loves us. He wants us to drag those hurts to Him and unload them. Then fall, once again, into the arms that are always waiting to embrace us.

I was looking at one of my scars the other day. It reminds me of the circumstances and injury that caused the ugly slash on my arm. It doesn’t hurt anymore, but I remember the pain that it once was.

It kind of works like that when we let God heal our hurts. The scars are
there, and if reminded we can tell the story of how they were inflicted. But
once healing takes place…even though we remember how bad it hurt, the sting of pain is gone.

For that reason, I love my scars.
They don’t hurt anymore, but they remind me of a time when I did hurt. A time when the hurt was so real I was bleeding all over everything in sight. I’ve learned a few things since then.

1. I will avoid putting my fist through plate-glass windows.
2. I will avoid putting my faith in man instead of God.

Plate glass windows are unforgiving and man is…well…faulty to say the least (myself included).

When we grasp how much He loves us, we heal. Healing has a way of wiping the mud off the message.
Thank You Lord.

For the Brokenhearted Wives


I spent some time this past week talking with a married gal who’s heart is broken. She’s in a marriage that has been more than a little bit painful (she said I could share this). She married a man that is not a believer. She knew it wasn’t the best of circumstances, but she loved him and felt that he loved her deep enough to eventually want her God also. He’s a good man, but still a man that does not love the Lord like she does.

This is no time for blame, she’s hurting and needs comfort not correction.

If you are hurting in your marriage, I want to encourage you that the Lord sees your tears. He knows the pain of a broken heart and is near to it.

Maybe your spouse has another woman or maybe pornography has gripped his life and it breaks your heart.

The Bible says that God is a jealous God. By that it means that He knows the pain of someones heart embracing the love of another. He understands the depth of your hurt.

No matter why you are hurting, God has the healing and love that you so desperately long for.

I offered this woman the same advice that I do to all women who are hurting and want so badly to have their husband love them, it’s found in THIS post.

But I also shared with her how much the Lord loved her and wants her to find her hope and healing in His arms. Sometimes our wounds just need time to heal and they need us to slow down long enough to let the Lord apply His love and healing power to our hearts.

Before we are wives, we are daughters. Daughters of the King of Kings.

You are precious in God’s eyes. Failures and all. His love for you extends beyond the expanse of the universe. He created everything we see with YOU in mind. He adores you. He’s your biggest fan. He wants to be your hiding place.

Psalms 32:7
You are my hiding place; You will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance. NIV

If you are hurting today, friend, go to that hiding place. Get yourself alone with the only One who is able to bring true comfort to your brokenness.

Psalms 34:18
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. NIV

Psalms 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. NIV

It’s very difficult to bind up the wound of someone who won’t stop moving. Take some time alone with God, He’s just waiting to wrap healing His arms around you.

For more that I’ve written about my own brokenheart, see THIS post.

I’m praying for our marriages,

Does the Past Haunt Your Marriage?


Has your marriage suffered some deep wounds? Even those from many years ago can hinder our present relationship if we let them.
It is true that sometimes healing a broken heart takes time. But all the time in the world cannot do what God can do when we surender our hurts and pain to Him.

I have a feeling that there are many of you that live every day with pain in your heart and no one else knows about it.

Words and actions that have wounded you to the bottom of your heart and your thoughts can’t seem to get past them.

You justify the walls you put up because, you are not about to be hurt again!

1. God Desires to Heal Your Brokenheart

Psalms 34:18
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

You may think that no one knows, but God has seen it all.
He sees how deeply you hurt and He is close to you. He wants to bind up your wounds and heal the brokenness that has crippled you for so long.

Ps 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

2. Bring Him Your Brokenheart.

Let me share the verse that set my heart free:

Matt 11:28-12:1
28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I
will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle
and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is
easy and my burden is light.”

He sent His son…now it’s your move.
Come to Him.

And when we do come to Him, He fills us with His life.
Or as God’s Word says, He fills our dry empty lives with the water that brings life:

John 7:37-38
“If anyone is thirsty, let him come to me and drink.
38 Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, streams of living
water will flow from within him.”

Can I ask those of you that are hurting…how long has it been since you’ve experienced streams of living water…in your marriage?

It is not hard to go to Him.
No fancy words necessary, just pour your heart out and ask Him to heal it.

3. Pray for your marriage, everyday.

Ask the Lord soften your heart and to fill it fresh with faith, hope and love.

The past does not need to dictate your future.
The God who spoke the world into existence, the God who created everything we see is on your side. He wants to see you free from the chains of the past and walking in the freedom of love and forgiveness.

Does this post hit home with you?
Please drop me an email or leave me a comment. I’d love to hear your story…or at least know you are out there!

I’m praying for our marriages,

It Is Well With My Soul

I saw this video a while back and it has stuck with me.
It is an amazing account of how this song was birthed.


Our hope is in Him,

Now that you are spiritually encouraged, you just have to go HERE for a good laugh today!!


I opened my front door this week to a devastating sight. A young couple that my husband and I had ministered to on many occasions was standing there completely distraught. I could see it immediately. Their faces were heavy with pain and it scared me. I just said,

Then she fell into my arms and told me that she had lost her baby at 22 weeks in her pregnancy. They came in and we spent some time talking and praying.

For the rest of the article, come to the Internet Cafe’

Two shall become One ~ Brokenness


Hello Friends!
I have some things that I want to share, but have been so busy coming home from our 2 week trip to Texas that I haven’t had time to sort it all out and write it for you.

So this week, I have a special treat that I want to share with you. I read this post last week and it has been on my mind ever since. It is so powerful!

Also, it is from one of my Michigan friends that I hope to meet soon!
Please follow this link and apply this to your heart in your marriage.

“Brokenness? I can live up to that!” by Karen Hossink

Our hope is in Him,

Bring God Your Brokenheart

Hello friends,
I know that I have written before about God healing our brokenhearts, but I feel that as I read your emails and talk to some of you, it is an ongoing issue for many of us.
I have combined a few of my old posts to hopefully minister healing to your hearts today.

I was talking with a friend once about the battle that takes place in our mind and thoughts. I had been struggling with depression and discouragement after walking through an extremely difficult and painful situation.

I told her how I had forgiven those involved, but I could not seem to get past the pain even though it had been months since it happened. I knew that in my heart I had forgiven, I was even able to see those involved and not have anger in my heart. So why was I still hurting?

I was praying on a regular basis for God to reveal to me if there was more that I needed to do in the situation, but it seemed I was without direction.
Did I really forgive them?
Was I just fooling myself?
I didn’t think so, but still I couldn’t get past it.

My friend spoke to me from the heart of God, she said ‘I think you have forgiven, you’re not doing anything wrong, but it sounds like you need healing from a broken heart.

Psalms 147:33
He heals the brokenheartedand binds up their wounds.

I knew at that moment that those words were from the heart of God.

It hit me like a fresh wind. I was so excited that I got off the phone with her right away and went to be alone with the Lord. I poured my soul out to Him and asked Him to heal my wounded heart.

Once again I prayed for those that had hurt me and thanked God for completely healing my heart. It was wonderful! I know that He did a deep healing in my heart that day. For weeks I didn’t hurt and joy overflowed in my heart.

But, Satan lurks and waits- sometimes he’s more patient than we are, and a day came when I had an opportunity to once again pick up the pain from the past.

As if I was rehearsing for a play, I re-enacted scenes in my mind of what this person had done, how I would respond and what they might say. Before I knew what was happening, the hurt started to creep back in. This time though was different than all the rest, because I knew that God had healed me and I realized that satan was trying to get me to fall back into that pit of pain and depression.

I stood my ground and started to pray. I cast those thoughts out of my head and thanked the Lord for healing my broken heart.

2 Cor 10:5
Bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ

I believe that if I had continued on that thought pattern, I could have fallen into that pit and started the horrible cycle of pain all over again. I am so thankful that the Holy Spirit helped me recognize that attack.

As wonderful as it is when God reveals and heals a heart in this manner, I realize that not all healing happens this way.

I picture some of our pain like a spider web. Our heart can be broken and the effects can affect many different relationships and situations that we don’t even realize at the onset. Then as we walk through this life, different seasons reveal the need for healing from events in our past.

Let me tell you about another time when my heart was broken.

When I was a young girl around 8 years old, I was sexually abused by a friend of the family for over a year of my life. The abuse has affected so many areas of my life. I have since forgiven the man and God has healed my heart, but that does not mean that it is over and done with.

There are still times that fears and pain will come up that I can trace back to this event. When I see it affecting my relationships, I have to address the root of the issue and go to God with it.

When I was a teenager, I heard a speaker at church talking about God healing people who had been abused. He talked about forgiveness being part of the process of healing. I really broke down that night. I prayed for God to heal me and prayed for the man who had abused me all those times.

I felt God’s love and I felt protected. I know that God has healed me because if I saw that man today, I could share God’s love with him. I could tell him that I forgive him. Not because he deserves it, but because I need that same forgiveness from God that I don’t deserve.

I could let my heart be bitter towards him and wait until he begs on his hands and knees for me to forgive him, but that would only hurt me.

Matt 6:14-15
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

I will not let Satan continue the abuse in me by holding on to unforgiveness in my heart. To keep bitterness in me is to continue being a victim. I don’t want to be a victim ever again.

God healed my heart, and the “sting” of the pain is gone. However, I still remember what happened, I still struggle with trust and security.Thankfully, I now have a relationship with my Heavenly Father that is safe and secure and I know that He will never stop loving me.

The truth of the matter is that life can break your heart. But GOD. He can bind us up and bring healing. He makes beauty out of life’s mud.

Bring your pain and sorrow to Him. Let Him hold you close and heal you.

Psalms 40:2-3
He lifted me out of the slimy pit,out of the mud and mire;
He set my feet on a rockand gave me a firm place to stand.
3 He put a new song in my mouth,a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see and fearand put their trust in the LORD.

Glory to God for a new song!!!!

I’m praying for you,

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