Three Pitfalls of Communication in Marriage


Some of the valuable things I have learned about communication in my 22 years of marriage…

1. Listen…with your ears not your mouth.
We can get so wrapped up in telling our side of a story that we never stop to listen to what our spouse is trying to tell us.

Proverbs 12:15
Fools think they need no advice, but the wise listen to others.

2. Watch Your Words
Use words like, “that made me feel _________” instead of accusing words like “you are so mean and awful…”

3. Don’t say…”Never” and “Always”
Rarely are they ever used truthfully and they are words that put up immediate walls.
Your husband knows that he doesn’t always say ______, so when you accuse him of it, he will immediately close you out and not hear the rest of your complaint.

Hope these keys help!
I’m praying for our marriages!

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  1. We have to remember that exaggerations are lies, so using words like always and never are not allowed over at our house except if we're talking about God–God will never leave me nor forsake me or God's is always faithful.

  2. Great reminders! 🙂 Thank you.
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  3. Good advice…..

  4. Thanks for these reminders, Sue. I will purpose not to be foolish and heed your wise advice.

  5. Thanks Karen, I’ve learned these the hard way! J

  6. Thanks Annalea, me too!

  7. Great advice Sue. Communication is so important in marriage and so easy to lose if we aren't mindful of it.

  8. So true! Praising Him, Sue Cramer Praise and Coffee Praise and Coffee Nights

  9. LauraLeeShaw says:

    Incredible wisdom. Our words have the power of life and death, and I see the difference positive ones make in my marriage!